PO Thank everyone in advance! I want to thank everyone for previous ideas, and Cuddle Party http://www.cuddleparty.com I have been a facilitator for 8 parties, received a weekend training, 40+ training by SKYPE with 10 other members with oversight by credentialed therapists on a board, and attended 4 parties as a participant. I struggle with certification. The problems/opportunities are: 1. Place, 2. Group of people, 3. Time, 4. How 5. Perception of an orgy/potential orgy since it is in a private home/hotel with the name "cuddle.": Spencer Turnick has become my mentor (he doesn't know this.) He directs humanity (nudity which indeed will involve touch/affection instead of actors who portray porn/sex. Below is the original post where I began considering the double bind/paradox of a nonsexual workshop in settings appropriate for orgies and no one available for public spaces fully clothed for the same workshops. Peer reviewed literature supports the humanity of public displays of affection in a nonsexual way as beneficial.
Cindy Gallop speaks on Ted.com Make Love Not Porn http://blog.ted.com/2011/02/24/new-on-ted-books-cindy-gallops-make-... , Spencer Turnick persuades naked people to act in a friendly nonsexual way to depict art related to a musical event normally.
A while back I wrote a book about guys disappearing from the Earth (unpublished) so imagine my interest when I saw a piece by Phillip Zimbardo on the Demise of Guys by Ted.com with the supposition that technology is detrimental. So I have been connecting many things as only a polymath can do. I even tried to come up with ideas to address the tech overload guys have on the Ted.com forums. I attempted to discuss this with full disclosure of my exposure to a Cuddle Party (pajamas stay on while people practice a communication workshop which may/may not include affection that is consensual and boundary appropriate for a nonsexual workshop) I am a facilitator (not certified and not listed with) and everything was wiped clear and the discussion ended on my forum on Ted.com. So I started a discussion as a mystery guest about a mystery problem and then discussed with about 8 people including a translator who must have been the culprit of my forum demise. And I got to talk about the address to my heart's content sans the only solution I know that isn't Leo Buscaglia, a man who taught hugging many people each day, or Amma from India who basically is affectionate as well. What I learned is that Leo didn't change society. What I learned from Ted.com is that "touch" is being used to sell technology by calling technology titles involving the word touch and rare instances of massage in word searches and not much including affection, meanwhile our society as a whole has touch deprivation.
My idea is a workshop that exists already that includes communication and a lot of touch with pajamas on and a facilitator and buddy who are led by the facilitator who is certified with 60+ training hours and also CPR/AED/First Aid. The workshop is nonsexual and communication happens all 3 hours of the workshop, and so does touching if consensual. At every step I encounter double bind statements. Nonsexual--must be done privately,
Can the demise of guys be averted by touch/affection and communication besides porn? Can the demise of guys be modified by Leo Buscaglia National Public Television videos? Can the demise of guys be important to changing power structures in society? I am more concerned about touch deprivation and appropriate touch than any aspect. How does Spencer Turnick get so many thousands of people to show up with no underwear and get naked so he can make a better living? The people appear nonsexual