Love
Love is basic need of humans,without it no one can servive.Love comprises of help,care and respect and number of other things.Human cultures and civilizations were also created because of love with something.Poetry,beauty,language,music are also the product of love.Love needs interaction,in result of interaction it forms groups,institutions and ultimately society.We can't ignore love because its also human perception.Life is not only mechanical but loveable also.
According to Russel
Life inspired by love and guided by science.
Love is also one of the state of human mind.
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Permalink Reply by Phil Bachmann on -
"Life inspired by love and guided by science."
Is a misquote of Betrand Russell's, but also a big improvement on it.
I believe Edward de Bono once suggested that a museum should be set up where rather than exhibit works of art, phrases like this would be put on display.
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Permalink Reply by Sinclair McLay on -
"Love is also one of the state of human mind."
Maybe it is the only state of the human heart?
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Permalink Reply by Franis on -
This is a good idea Phil.
Have been collecting them for awhile. thought originally they would be a good thing to put into buttons...but the button-making machine turned out to be too labor intensive. So didn't know what else to do with them. Figured I would scrawl them all over an aging vehicle, and drive around advertising them everywhere...a rolling exhibit. But haven't done it yet because I was afraid others would scrawl other sayings and slogans on the car also. Perhaps using a certain color combo would discourage this possible graffiti.
I am fascinated by the things people do because they are in love with them. The Passionate Amateur can get so excited by something.
Phil Bachmann said:"Life inspired by love and guided by science."
Is a misquote of Betrand Russell's, but also a big improvement on it.
I believe Edward de Bono once suggested that a museum should be set up where rather than exhibit works of art, phrases like this would be put on display.
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Permalink Reply by Kim Jones on -
Then there is the notion that "God is Love" that non-god-bothering types like me find a little irksome. Somewhere or other Ted talks about replacing or at least retiring the concept of Love for the concept of Respect.
I can go a long way with that. If God is Love, then that's a problem I have been having for a long time with both god and love. God is scary. God demands fidelity. God gets heavy with you if you don't show "enough" love.
Respect is polite. Respect allows the other to be themselves. Respect is a kind of mutual admiration minus the concept of possession.
Take it from there.
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Permalink Reply by Kim Jones on
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Respect may ultimately be more workable and practical than Love. It is also far less dangerous. People do some pretty stupid things in the name of Love, but I have never heard of someone getting into trouble out of an excess of Respect.
You can enjoy many of the benefits of Love under the banner of Respect, without many of the dangerous conditions that Love would often impose. If you don't think Love imposes conditons then read up on that poor slob Job in the Bible.
Or even the story of Abraham and Isaac. There are many reasons why we should get over the concept of Love, or at least be extremely wary of it.
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Permalink Reply by Franis on
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Yeah Kim, you're very reasonable. But love is so much FUN!! Purely because it is so UN-reasonable.
I like the Koinonia idea. (Not sure if I'm spelling it correctly though.) It is a Greek word that defines a universal or impersonal love.
For me love is a centrifugal, dynamic force, based on reciprocity. I have identified various levels of giving and taking, depending on the appropriateness of the relationship. Strangely enough, for those who I am never going to see again and my closest and most intimate adopted family members, it is my pleasure to apply the "random acts of kindness and senseless beauty" approach to demonstrating what I believe love means. What I do is freely offered. It's my pleasure to deliberately avoid "keep track" of who did who with whom.
It's the sort of intermediary relationships between (business relationships, acquaintances and friendships) where I do keep track, very carefully. I make an attempt to understand the other person's ideas of how, exactly, it is appropriate to accept and give. I've learned that it's not appropriate to give indescriminately in those situations; that giving in a sense, robs someone of their independence and makes them "one down."
So - duration, rhythm, amount of benefit for the "givee", amount of cost to the giver - all those factors - I'm paying very close attention to them. Also paying close attention as well as the reactions and responses of who is involved and how they feel about it all.
Love can be, for many people, a sophisticated little dance between obligation and negotiation. But it's a dance, which makes it fun.
David Bohm Dialogue asks the question: "Shouldn't people be able to think together, in the same way people dance and sing together?" Art can be such an expression of the love of doing, of shining up a talent. I believe that de Bono's parallel thinking Six Hats techniques help bring this possibility of thinking together into reality.
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Permalink Reply by Kim Jones on
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hmmmmmm
I think Love is something I have for great music. I guess it works because it's a one-way street. Great Music doesn't carp at me or go cold on me. It's always there for me and it's always exciting.
It may be that once the thing that you love is another entity capable of loving you (or, just as easily, the reverse) - then it's no longer as straightforward. If it was, then there would be no need for pre-nups and divorce lawyers!
Have you noticed how often it happens that people who claim to 'love' one another often seem to show not the slightest shred of respect for each other? Do I have to give examples of that?
I'm not saying Love and Respect are incompatible with each other but I have rarely met a symmetrical relationship between the two.
Love unites and submerges all differences in a mysterium tremendum
Respect celebrates the differences between people, cultures etc.
Love burns with a strong heat and consequently burns itself out.
Respect doesn't seem to burn anything.
Love is an emotion.
Respect is a Habit of Mind.
Love is wonderful.
Love is like a drug - certain whooppee chemicals get released by the brain
Why everyone needs at least a limited drugs education - so that when some piece of heavy chemistry like love comes along, you've at least got a point of comparison with 'altered brain states'.
Respect is absolutely, mathematically necessary and can even do a lot of the heavy-lifting that Love does, but without the drama and the trauma.
Ultimately, Respect costs a lot less than love, and I would even venture to suggest leaves a much smaller carbon footprint as well.
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Permalink Reply by samir on -
Love is for serve,love has its multi dictions we can't give a fix box definition of love but can only discuss some of its features,love is a vague term,the word love comprises of different actions supporting the thing we attain,caring is also one face of love.Some says, love with something has these three factors lust, attraction, and attachment.
vale durrant says:
Love depends upon person social needs ,without love one has no hope.
According to biological psychology love is nothing but process of chemicals and reactions.
But as we are human beings,human beings have feelings,emotions and some values.According to point of society,love is the bond that forms relations among human beings some of the examples of these bonds are family,culture,institutions and different groups.Love is continuouse process of attaining,love is also name of sacrifices.Feelings have no prominent concern with reasoning,love can be rational or irrational.
--Love displays itself
--Love has a strong relation with attaining
According to dale carnegy
“I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out.”
Love has some dependent and independent variables.Due which it starts and displays.
Love becomes naturally
Love can be explicit also.
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Permalink Reply by Franis on
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The thing that I question about respect is that it can be so often offered as a deal or a trade - but I guess that can also be true about love. People attempt to negotiate tacitly while offering "love."
Have always regarded marriage as a lazy man's way to say, "Hey, rather than negotiate and really make agreements specifically that we're going to keep with each other, let's get married and that umbrella will take care of the whole conversation about our agreements." Marriage, for many people, just lets everything be implied rather than specified. Once the situation gets specific, things fall apart...because people got married because they didn't have a clue how to make these agreements about expectations or even what expectations were.
Really, professing love, many people are making a deal without knowing what they are actually getting or giving. If their cultural assumptions match, then all is well. Most often these cultural assumptions do not match. Cultural assumptions about love often do not match people's own needs.
Kim, you are right in that respect contains quite a bit more sanity than the passions of love.
Passion - looking at the root of that word is really interesting in the origin and history of "passion". Turns out that passion is a surrendered state, an allowing sort of action, rather than a striving sort of meaning the word passion has come to mean in today's culture. The word passion comes from meaning of "passive", "receptive."
So it's not just that there is love or not love, but what sort of love there is, what sort of respect there is. Quality is everything in love and respect.
Respect can be had from fear. Suppose that there is a twisted sort of love that is also mixed in with fear. Many emotions may be mixed in with each other.
For instance, love mixed with blame or a sense of cause and effect or consequence gives an impression that the other person is causing love to occur in you. Before love can happen, a person seems to need to open themselves up to loving and being lovable.
This is true for other emotions as well. Pride without fear is a desire for excellence, whereas pride mixed with fear it is one of the seven deadly sins of self-involved arrogance.
Many people use the more general term "love" when a better word for what they are doing might be "care" "admiration" 'desire' "attraction" "infatuation" "absorption" "attention" "talent" etc. It is common to be notoriously inarticulate when it comes to misunderstanding their own emotions.
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